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That's exactly how it happened. The player was called a cuss word. The ref might of been talking to the other refs but the player was standing right beside him with the ball. The player then told the ref two players later that he doesn't need to be cussing kids. Ref then told him he was done for the night and then threw him out. That was the players first unsportsmanlike flag of the the night and he automatically threw him out. Ref definitely instigated the incident and the player is the one that is being punished.