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Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. This is so frustrating because I thought that I was doing what was right to put my kids in the right situations to prepare and help them get in college. My daughter and excellent basketball player was preparing to go to college and developed Leukemia in February of her Junior season and has been priority for me and is one of the main reasons JJ landed in Hazard. To Rhodes offense he knew nothing of my son and or his abilities, I did ask about opportunities for recruitment and was told about the coaches who visited the school in prior seasons. I never expect anything be giving to my kids but that they are giving FAIR opportunities. I have been involved in grassroots basketball since JJ was in 5th grade and he started with just skill training from 5yrs through 10yrs. With the politics in grassroots basketball if you are under 6'5 in MS it is hard and he was under 5'9 until 10th grade and he is still growing. Everyone wants the next PRO. My son has spent many hours in the gym and feels this is where he should reap the rewards for his commitment to the game. For the record his GPA is greater than 3.2 .I have always been told that college coaches didn't want to hear from parents and they listen to the high school and summer coaches.... So I am so confused with JJ situation. He has a great opportunity with LMU but he want to see if he can get any other offers. I might be wrong, but I have been in constant contact with his Rhodes to see what was happening with recruitment. I think there are thing that can and should be done at the school level such as reporting stats at the state and national levels (MAX PREP and USA TODAY HS SPORTS), recording games, and notifying colleges of players that can add to there program. There is a lot to recruitment that the average parent would not understand such as potential to play, style of play, coaching style and I'm sure others that have to be consider to actually place kids where they fit and will benefit most. (ex. not sign at a school were there are 4-5 guy in the same position)

I was wrong in expecting that this would be done at the school level. But in dealing with my daughter and teaching at the University level my time was limited. Thus me having to work overtime now. I still believes that a college coach will respect the opinion of my child coach vs mine. This is part of the administrative side of coaching and it is especially hard when you have a team of players because player management is also a big issue. Please note I am not blaming, faulting or complaining we are just trying to understand where do we go from here. I think that Rhodes has added to my son and feel that Cordia is great for his growth.

That being said I am preparing to get my child to Unsigned seniors camps that steam to D1 school as well as get him out during the NCAA live weekend in April. If he does not spark interest I will encourage him to take the LMU offer. I appreciate all of the suggestions and advice. I hope that this tread help coaches know that the parents and kids do care and are concerned. I started worrying in January when I was filling out Federal Aid paperwork and not knowing what school to list. I made my concern known and believe if Cordia had made it to Lexington this would not be the issue BUT since they didn't now what. At least 6 of the 7 senior have stated serious concerns it's not just the two of us and maybe someone should ask the kids. (as a reply to TOPNOTCH) Again not mad just want to know what's next and if what is there is the best that they can do or are they cheating themselves. This is there life. This is a part of their lives and they know college is about education but they have worked to play at the collegiate level. Honestly if you have seen them play you know that they should have more offers at a variety of level. I'm just saying. As parent we want what fair and the best opportunities, don't fault us for caring.

The younger kids are watching and talking to the older kids.

Again, to be honest, I don't know the first thing about Cordia or their setup up there. I just knew Rhodes wound up coaching there due to an article a while back in the Lexington paper. I just knew it was a small private sort of school. I always laughed when Rhodes would laugh or smile big during UK games because he has a "fliptop head" that resembles PacMan when he is smiling big.
You will just have to do a little bush beating with your son to try to field some interest from the college coaches. At this point in the game with application deadlines looming, you might spend a day and call some of the local Kentucky coaches or email them to see if there is any interest. Have your son's stats, grades and test scores ready and you should be able to get a real feel in a day whether there is any interest from the coaches just by simply talking to them. Most coaches will probably tell you straight up at this point where they stand with their recruiting or interest and if there is any scholarship money left in their budget I would think. I would have the boy do the calling though to show the coaches that he might be really interested in them and that he has initiative. I'd say you are right about coaches having more respect for talking to a high school coach than a possible helicopter parent. Can't hurt to try calling them though at this point because you really have nothing to lose by doing it. You could get a short list there of schools with your son after he finishes. LMU is a really nice school that my family used to have formal ties to for years up until about ten/fifteen years ago. I knew the girls basketball coach there until about three years ago when she retired.
As far as your daughter goes, bless your heart. No parent should have to go through such agony with their child. I've seen some bad times with my own children over the years with sepsis from a ruptured appendix at age nine on one son to my three week old having to go through abdominal surgery to correct a defect in a stomach muscle so that he could digest his food. You feel helpless and can just sit on the sideline and cheer them on and hope for the best. I've dealt with nothing like them having cancer and I wish you and yours the best of luck. I'll say a prayer for you.
Hang in there and good luck with your boy and your girl.:Thumbs: