[BallaBaby]

Cali, Balla, DT--

Please understand--I haven't, don't, won't take any unintentional shots at any of you.

I think that all of you are pretty cool. But this post makes me a little nervous (and I know--if I didn't like it-I didn't have to respond. But here is my take on the situation:

Cali--pretty much everything that comes from you lately involves how hurt you are. I am VERY SORRY TO HEAR that. You sound like you are pretty cool person. And it kind of bothers me to hear that you are having a hard time.

But this is what I am thinking--the more that you read stuff like this--the more depressed that you are going to be. I mean, you already sound like you are a little depressed (based on your posts) already. Why make it worse by reading/posting stuff like this? Again--I am not trying to tell you what to do--I am trying to give you a different perspective. If you feel like I am out of line--my fault.

Balla/DT--if you know girls who wouldn't want to tell their boyfriends/significant others the truth about this situation--again--my fault. My opinion is that, if my wife (or even when she was my "girlfriend", pulled a stunt like this--I would never consider offing my self. I would feel more like I have an OBLIGATION TO HER--to make MY LIFE WORK--or more along the lines of honoring her memory by trying to live life in a manner that would make her proud. And you know what--I know for a FACT--that she would not want me to off myself. She would WANT ME TO FIND A WAY TO BE HAPPY. And that probably has a lot to do with the fact that she loves me more than she loves herself.

I understand the need to back your friends here--but the 3 of you seem to bring up heartbreak, depression, etc a lot lately. Do you wonder why?

Seriously--all 3 of you are GREAT! Find something that is a little more uplifting. It makes the day a lot easier to get through.

And last--if this type of stuff is circulating through myspace, I am glad that I am not a part of it. That is my own opinion.

Like I said--do me a favor and think about where I am coming from. I am not trying to put you down--but more like trying to get you to realize that it is time to start building yourselves up. At the END--things can always be a lot worse.

Last--I wasn't trying to take a shot at Hi Hat. That comment was directed at Cali because of one of her posts in another thread. (It seemed like she was depressed that she had to be there right now for whatever reason--if she isn't happy there--it would do her some good to get out of town for a few days--that was all that I meant. Nothing more/nothing less. It definitely wasn't meant to be an insult).

The thread that I made about being in a loving relationship even though going through a hard time was a GOOD thread, not a sad one. I love someone and I wanted to share it with everyoe on BGR because I condsider them family, and I wanted to know about everyone else on here if they had boyfriends, if they were married or even if they had any advice. Don't take this personally but sometimes you take things way too seriously,just chill out and go with the flow, don't get upset if someone puts a sad story on here, it's not good to always take things seriously. We all 3 post things on here to share stories with you guys that we might think will interest you. The story that Cali posted was nothing more than something that probably made her htink about living life to its fullest or something like that and she wanted to share it with everyone. I understand where your coming from, and you need to understand where I'm coming from as well as Cali and DT. I have a great life, great friends, great relationships, it's just nice to share stuff with people every now and then, if you actually knew me personally as well as DT and Cali you would know that just like everyone else on here especiallly 15th..lol..I've posted many things on here that were uplifting, and I've been here to cheer people up when they needed it.
Sorry if I offended you or anything, but when I feel like you have attacked any of my friends on here I will take up for them. Cali and DT are considered family to me and I would do anything for them, so naturally I'm going to be on their side and defend them just like I would any of my friends on here.