[boogieman]

It all starts in the home. Parents want their kids to be the best and when they are not the kids have to hear things from the parents who want to blame someone else. Most of the time if a child is not doing well they hear parents say well if it wasn't for the coach, the teacher or whoever maybe in the direct path of said childs achievements, and then the child starts to believe that they are not to blame but others are, then they lose respect not only for others but also for their parents and themselves. They start thinking that no team can do without them. Children lose their sense of self and purpose, they want to be this perfect person and will try to achieve this regardless of who they run over to get it. Sports, in my opinion, have damaged alot of parents, not kids, parents. Especially basketball in the state of Kentucky, no better fans are found for this sport, but alot of dreams are destroyed because of the parents. What I mean by this is simply, parents dream of their child playing for UK or another big school and when they push and push their child to be this super player, they usually find out at the end of their high school career, they are not d1 players. Now I by no means think kids or parents should not have dreams, but just to be realistic and keep your kids grounded, have fun and let them be kids. Their is life after high school and away from basketball you just have to live it. As for coaches I, for one do not think a coach should get in a kids face and scream and spit and all that, but kids do need to know that they can not just do as they please either. Coaches who respect their players get respect from the players and the parents.