[Crossbones]

First, I said that being competitive will help in life. Everyone knows that your never going to win at everything.
Second, how much competitive sports did you play? I played the big three all through high school and two at the college level and I can tell you this; all the great players hated losing more than they liked winning.
I don't know if some kids have it and some kids don't. I don't know if it can be taught. I didn't mean to sound arrogant, all I'm saying is that it should really bother kids to lose. The kids character, which should be taught at home, will help them cope with it in their own way. I don't want my kids to have the mindset that losing is OK as long as you learn from it. I would rather they hate losing so much, that they do everything they need to in preparing themselves.
It just seems that from an early age kids are taught, "it's OK to lose as long as you have fun and learn from it." Losing isn't fun!

I believe we are on the same page. I couldn't agree more with what you are saying. It's never ok to lose, but I try to teach my children if you do lose, don't let it keep you down and from trying again. I think we are trying to say the same thing, just in a different way. By the way I did play two sports all the way through high school, just not in college. I even lost in two state championship football games. I just tried to have the mind set that I wasn't a loser. I didn't win the title but I had a winner experience. And for the record I didn't take you as being arrogant.