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I can respect your opinon as to the bolded and think it's a very noble thought. At the same time, I personally feel that how to react to that situation is ultimately left up to the one who endured it. Reasonable minds can differ though. For ne personally, I rationalize it by saying "I haven't really been in the victim's shoes, so I can't judge what they are feeling to know that they absolutely shouldn't be public with their thoughts".

As to the italicized, I do think that the school's decision (i.e., who it will be left up to) could be something that "teaches a lesson" so to speak, to a greater extent than you seem to. Again, reasonable minds can differ.

Nothing is stopping people from supporting him by writing letters of support to the college either. If this was a lapse in judgment and there's a ground-swell of support from teammates, coaches, teachers, AAU teammates/fellow campers who would vouch for him, especially if those were people seemingly effected by the comments, then I would imagine that it would go a long way with the school.

I also think there's some conflation with "contacting the school" and "hoping he loses his scholarship".

I appreciate your post and basically agree with you. I just wish people would move away from "I'm a victim" and move towards confronting the problem head on. Think what a statement it would make if the kids parents would step in, call a press conference (with their son) and tell people to drop it and that they had forgiven the kid? I bet it would be a wonderful experience for all of us but especially those two young men, which is really all that matters.