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05-15-2005, 02:26 PM
Crossing the line?
Lake Geneva student who wore dress to prom is suspended, fined $249
Kerry Lofy figures that girls get to wear dresses to the Lake Geneva Badger High School prom, so why couldn't he?
But now that he has been suspended from school for three days, is being forced to miss his last track meet (and a chance for the school's pole vaulting record) and has to pay a $249 ticket for disorderly conduct, Lofy's not so sure he picked the right battle to fight.
"Things got a little crazy," Lofy said Tuesday from home, where the 18-year-old senior is serving the suspension after Saturday night's antics.
High school officials are not returning calls for comment on the case, but to hear Lofy tell it, this is a classic case of the price you pay for fighting for your rights of self-expression.
Lofy said he thought it would be funny to show up at his senior prom Saturday wearing a dress. Lofy went to the prom with Victor Anderson, a friend. Lofy says the school did not have any problem letting two males attend prom together, but school officials who had heard of Lofy's plan to wear a black dress warned him that he would not be allowed in the dance if he showed up dressed as a woman.
Lofy says he is not gay. He says he agreed to go with Anderson, who is gay, because Anderson is his friend and he wanted to go to the prom but didn't have a date. Anderson confirms this. Lofy concedes that he was uneasy going to prom with another male, and wearing a dress was a way to deflect other people's suspicions.
"I thought it would be funny," he said.
Late last week, word got out about Lofy's plans. Lofy says the school's associate principal stopped him three times in the hallway on Friday to warn him not to wear a dress. Lofy, a member of the school's track, ski, powerlifting and soccer teams, says he is known for his outrageous fashion sense. Last year, he showed up to prom wearing a tuxedo he made out of duct tape.
School administrators warned Lofy not to ruin prom for others, Lofy says. "It's not your prom," he says the associate principal told him.
But Lofy went ahead anyway, borrowing a girlfriend's black, stretchy, spaghetti-strap dress. He bought a blond wig, open-toed platform sandals, blue earrings and a necklace at Goodwill. He used one of his mom's purses to carry his wallet and car keys.
"I looked like Marilyn Monroe," he says.
Lofy picked up Anderson, they exchanged flowers - a pink-and-white wrist corsage for Lofy, and a boutonniere for Anderson - and then dined at the Newport Grill with three other couples. Lofy ordered beef tenderloin while Anderson had smoked salmon. They posed for photos just like the rest of the prom-goers. Then they went to the dance.
But when the 6-foot, 185-pound Lofy showed up in a dress, he was turned away by teachers, he said.
He went back to his car, put a tan-and-black plaid leisure suit over the dress and was allowed inside. Once inside, Lofy shed the leisure suit during a dance-off.
That's when the school's security guard escorted him to the door.
Lofy says that when he showed up at school on Monday, the school liaison police officer issued the $249 disorderly conduct ticket.
Lofy doesn't understand all the hubbub.
"I wasn't hurting anybody," he says. "I wasn't preventing anyone from learning in a school environment."
He says friends plan to protest the school's actions today. Some male students have vowed to wear dresses and some of the female students will be wearing suit coats and ties, Lofy says.
Lofy plans to go to Colorado Mountain College in the fall and major in ski hill management.
Mark Pienkos, principal at Lake Geneva Badger High School, declined several requests for comment.
Lake Geneva student who wore dress to prom is suspended, fined $249
Kerry Lofy figures that girls get to wear dresses to the Lake Geneva Badger High School prom, so why couldn't he?
But now that he has been suspended from school for three days, is being forced to miss his last track meet (and a chance for the school's pole vaulting record) and has to pay a $249 ticket for disorderly conduct, Lofy's not so sure he picked the right battle to fight.
"Things got a little crazy," Lofy said Tuesday from home, where the 18-year-old senior is serving the suspension after Saturday night's antics.
High school officials are not returning calls for comment on the case, but to hear Lofy tell it, this is a classic case of the price you pay for fighting for your rights of self-expression.
Lofy said he thought it would be funny to show up at his senior prom Saturday wearing a dress. Lofy went to the prom with Victor Anderson, a friend. Lofy says the school did not have any problem letting two males attend prom together, but school officials who had heard of Lofy's plan to wear a black dress warned him that he would not be allowed in the dance if he showed up dressed as a woman.
Lofy says he is not gay. He says he agreed to go with Anderson, who is gay, because Anderson is his friend and he wanted to go to the prom but didn't have a date. Anderson confirms this. Lofy concedes that he was uneasy going to prom with another male, and wearing a dress was a way to deflect other people's suspicions.
"I thought it would be funny," he said.
Late last week, word got out about Lofy's plans. Lofy says the school's associate principal stopped him three times in the hallway on Friday to warn him not to wear a dress. Lofy, a member of the school's track, ski, powerlifting and soccer teams, says he is known for his outrageous fashion sense. Last year, he showed up to prom wearing a tuxedo he made out of duct tape.
School administrators warned Lofy not to ruin prom for others, Lofy says. "It's not your prom," he says the associate principal told him.
But Lofy went ahead anyway, borrowing a girlfriend's black, stretchy, spaghetti-strap dress. He bought a blond wig, open-toed platform sandals, blue earrings and a necklace at Goodwill. He used one of his mom's purses to carry his wallet and car keys.
"I looked like Marilyn Monroe," he says.
Lofy picked up Anderson, they exchanged flowers - a pink-and-white wrist corsage for Lofy, and a boutonniere for Anderson - and then dined at the Newport Grill with three other couples. Lofy ordered beef tenderloin while Anderson had smoked salmon. They posed for photos just like the rest of the prom-goers. Then they went to the dance.
But when the 6-foot, 185-pound Lofy showed up in a dress, he was turned away by teachers, he said.
He went back to his car, put a tan-and-black plaid leisure suit over the dress and was allowed inside. Once inside, Lofy shed the leisure suit during a dance-off.
That's when the school's security guard escorted him to the door.
Lofy says that when he showed up at school on Monday, the school liaison police officer issued the $249 disorderly conduct ticket.
Lofy doesn't understand all the hubbub.
"I wasn't hurting anybody," he says. "I wasn't preventing anyone from learning in a school environment."
He says friends plan to protest the school's actions today. Some male students have vowed to wear dresses and some of the female students will be wearing suit coats and ties, Lofy says.
Lofy plans to go to Colorado Mountain College in the fall and major in ski hill management.
Mark Pienkos, principal at Lake Geneva Badger High School, declined several requests for comment.
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05-15-2005, 02:48 PM
Yea I really don't see why he got in trouble over it, it was his personal choice to wear anything that he wanted to his prom. If I felt like going in a tux next year I should be able to do that and well since that guy was doing a buddy a favor and went in a dress, more power to him. Just shows that he has more balls that alot of other people there. I don't see why everyone made a HUGE deal over it.
05-15-2005, 06:00 PM
i completely agree with the school..i mean why doesnt this idiot just wear a freakin tux and stop tryin to create a controversey...the prom was post to be of a good memory, but instead bafoon decided to become a transsexual and wear a dress...trust me dude no one wants to see you in a dress
05-15-2005, 07:34 PM
people have rights though and if someone wants to wear something to prom then they should be able to wear it regardless. as long as it appropriately covers areas that needs to be covered i dont see the point in getting into trouble for an outfit. the guy had the right to wear the dress because its what HE wanted to do. girls dont get into trouble when wearing tuxes, i even saw a girl that won prom king. her school approved of it. she wore a tux. double standards....
05-15-2005, 07:36 PM
FSU...why shouldn't a guy be able to wear whatever he wants to? I mean as long as it isn't indicent exposure then there is nothing illeagel about it. Therefor I wouldn't think that the school should be allowed to say anything. Unless it is in the rules that you can't wear a dress (which it isn't b/c girls can) then he should be fighting this. Why should females be treated different and allowed to wear different clothing?
I see females wear tuxs to proms all the time, so what makes them alowed to wear clothes taht are considered for males??
I see females wear tuxs to proms all the time, so what makes them alowed to wear clothes taht are considered for males??
05-15-2005, 11:06 PM
exaclty vega..he was told he couldnt wear it, and yet he did, so now face it
05-15-2005, 11:44 PM
no actually thats a completely different thing...its the schools prom and its their rules...just like how every school has their own dress code
05-16-2005, 01:12 AM
I don't see anything wrong with it.. I think that it's funny.. and the punishment he got was too harsh
05-16-2005, 09:10 AM
same here 15th. i would love it if a guy wore a dress to my senior prom next year! boys have wore dresses to school before and i think one even wore on to the homecoming dance and went with his girlfriend but at prom the dress would be even more fancy and stuff and i would love it!
05-16-2005, 09:55 PM
VonWafer_FSU Wrote:no actually thats a completely different thing...its the schools prom and its their rules...just like how every school has their own dress code
THey might have the prom at school. but the school isn't who pays for it.. At least it wasn't like that when i was in school.. The students had to pay for everything.. So as long as nothing illegal is happening then i think the teachers and admins or school cops or whatever should let everyone just have a good time.. Even if they want to wear a dress..
05-16-2005, 10:50 PM
Thats kinda stupid
05-17-2005, 09:07 AM
A girl and her friend came dressed as the opposite sex as a joke to my school's homecoming dance and as backwards as Eastern Kentucky is, they still let them in and everyone still had a good time.
Like CTD said, students pay and fundraise to pay from prom. This year I paid $100 to go to my prom and I would be damned if someone had told me that I could not wear what I wanted to.
Like CTD said, students pay and fundraise to pay from prom. This year I paid $100 to go to my prom and I would be damned if someone had told me that I could not wear what I wanted to.
05-17-2005, 01:48 PM
I thought it was stupid last year in West Virginia (I think) when the girl made a rebel flag dress and they wouldnt let her wear it and made a big deal out of it.. i think people should be allowed to wear what they want ..
05-17-2005, 02:55 PM
15thRegionCrazy Wrote:I thought it was stupid last year in West Virginia (I think) when the girl made a rebel flag dress and they wouldnt let her wear it and made a big deal out of it.. i think people should be allowed to wear what they want ..
I remember that 15th, I would love to see that dress..lol
05-17-2005, 06:30 PM
CNN Wrote:The shame of taking a gay dude to prom dressed as a girl would be punishment enough.
Exactly
05-17-2005, 09:48 PM
hahaha to some people yes, i agree lol
still kind of funny
alot of different states really crack down when it comes to proms, school dress codes, and etc.
my ex boyfriend goes to school in tenn. now and they can have no type of rebel flag on ANY of their stuff or they will be suspended. i think its crazy but they say that it is offensive.
as long as your outfit or whatever does not show your private parts i think that it should be alright.
still kind of funny
alot of different states really crack down when it comes to proms, school dress codes, and etc.
my ex boyfriend goes to school in tenn. now and they can have no type of rebel flag on ANY of their stuff or they will be suspended. i think its crazy but they say that it is offensive.
as long as your outfit or whatever does not show your private parts i think that it should be alright.
05-17-2005, 10:37 PM
I haven't heard of a dress code for prom.. I'm sure everyone at his prom thought it was hilarious. The authorities made this bigger than it was i would say.
I would bet money that there was a whole lot more things to worry about then some guy wearing a dress to prom!
I would bet money that there was a whole lot more things to worry about then some guy wearing a dress to prom!
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